Sue,
I can see that you are a very passionate person. That is a great trait.
I for one am not in fear or hysterics of any chemical element or compound. I am cautious and aware of what others may do with the obviously toxic substances either intentionally or unintentionally. You are correct in that any substance is safe when handled properly. That is indeed the catch here.
I'm not a tree hugging environmentalist, but I don't want our children to grow up in world more polluted than the one that I had to grow up in. For this reason I will not advise others to use these type of chemicals just because they are readily available as in Sandhog's case with the mercury, or just because they are facinating. I for one know many other more mundane ways to recovery and purify gold without putting my life or his in too much danger. I would much rather help him learn these safer, yet not without danger, methods-- The lesser of two evils if you will.
I don't think that anyone replying to this topic intended on jumping Sandhog about mercury, more than likely we all just wanted him to be aware of the risks associated with mercury if not properly handled. In your example of Pepto-Bismol, try drinking a bottle of liquid mercury and see if you still think metals should not be duely respected. The point is that all chemicals should be handled with the proper precautions for each.
In closing, I for one would like to know the real answer to Sandhog's question. Please reference, explain, or provide a demonstration of the process of using mercury to purify gold. I'm pretty sure that it happens everyday somewhere in the world. I have never had the privilage of knowing what the exact process is. You obviously have a good grasp on Chemistry. I sincerely feel you may have the final answer to the question. Put aside your emotions about the previous posts and please share with us your knowledge on the chemistry of gold and mercury.
Here's one link that I found with very little effort:
http://www.blm.gov/education/going_4_the_gold/mining.html
It is superficial, but explains the overall process.
It would be a great contribution to the forum to have a tutorial for this process.
Great post! Keep up the good work.
Steve