Since you are not an idiot, which is a great advantage, the first thing you have to understand, that it isn't done with "some help" or at least not the help, you probably thought of. Like the others already said, put it a safe place and start reading for some weeks. Fixing a mess is a lot more difficult, than to do any process correct from beginning to the end.
Only for giving you some ideas, what has to be done for recovering (well, don't! I am sure you aren't ready for this):
Filter and keep the solids a safe place.
DeNOx with sulfamic
Filter (might precipitate some lead sulfate)
Stannous test the solution for gold and PGMs. If negative, process it as waste or better give it to a facility that takes toxical waste.
If positive, drop gold with SMB. Filter gold. Cement the rest with copper. Filter PGMs.
Test, if negative, process as waste or better give it to a facility that takes toxical waste.
The solids are dissolved back by covering with HCl and slowly adding nitric (first half as many ml as you know, there is gold - then in small portions until everything is dissolved - always waiting maybe half an hour before adding more - then deNOx by sulfamic - filter - drop)
This gold will be dirty and has to be refined (
Getting pure gold (shining)) before you try to melt it.
This description is only meant to give you an idea, what to search for. Each single step is full of traps and you could write half a book about almost each step.