Sorry to take issue with a bit of what you wrote, but:
Barrysophie said this: "im fairly new to this i know you guys are going to say check out hoke but to me reading about something versus seeing it are 2 different things."
I am going to say "Check out Hoke". C M Hoke's "Refining Precious Metal Wastes" is far more than just a read! This book, published in 1940, contains acquaintance experiments that are just as applicable today as they were when written. You would better understand the processes involved by reading, studying, and performing the experiments contained therein.
Taking the guided tour, as suggested, and studying lazersteve's videos will also help, but nothing compares with doing the processes on a small scale, with book in hand, to understand the process.
Also, please be careful of YouTube. Far too many videos lack information on safety issues. Those unfamiliar with proper safety procedures can easily do damage to themselves and others. Many other videos use poor procedures that can cost you in lost product or additional generation of wastes. If it is not a video suggested on this forum, consider it suspect.
Just my two grams worth. Enjoy.