Please don't take this the wrong way but you have got help you just do not see it yet
I think we all know your frustration most of us have been there at some point and will be again.
We could simply tell do this and that and hey presto it's done but you won't learn anything, if you intend to pursue this then do it properly and read and learn, the next time you do something wrong the fix you get for this might not work. You seem to understand the dangers or some of them but this is not for the faint hearted, the chemicals we use and the solutions we produce are toxic some very toxic, the materials we try to refine can and frequently do have toxic elements than can be released by either chemical processing, grinding or incinerating.
For now so long as you have thrown nothing away your gold is safe, carefully store it all somewhere safe and get reading, there is no shortcut you need to understand what's happening, what could happen and the next step in each process, your not the first member to arrive here with this situation those who take our advice are now competent refiners, those that don't normally give up.
You can do this, you can learn to recover and refine, you just need to bite the bullet and study.
Good luck.
I think we all know your frustration most of us have been there at some point and will be again.
We could simply tell do this and that and hey presto it's done but you won't learn anything, if you intend to pursue this then do it properly and read and learn, the next time you do something wrong the fix you get for this might not work. You seem to understand the dangers or some of them but this is not for the faint hearted, the chemicals we use and the solutions we produce are toxic some very toxic, the materials we try to refine can and frequently do have toxic elements than can be released by either chemical processing, grinding or incinerating.
For now so long as you have thrown nothing away your gold is safe, carefully store it all somewhere safe and get reading, there is no shortcut you need to understand what's happening, what could happen and the next step in each process, your not the first member to arrive here with this situation those who take our advice are now competent refiners, those that don't normally give up.
You can do this, you can learn to recover and refine, you just need to bite the bullet and study.
Good luck.