I have only scanned this post but from what little I have read I believe your problem is not enough fresh air intake. I also agree that you need to close off part or all of the front of your hood.
I built a crude fume hood 4 months ago 60"L x 30"D x 39"H with a front opening of 46" x 30". I am using 2 - 120 cfm bathroom exhaust fans made of all plastic except for the motor and each vented thru the roof with 4" ducting. I also keep 1 of these fans running 24 hrs. a day.
I put a piece of 1/4" plexiglass on the front with crude hinges and barrel bolts to keep it held down and used 1/4" x 3/4" closed cell foam weather stripping to seal the edges. I kept the bottom 10" of my hood open.
I am also in a small 9" x 9'-6" room but I do have a window.
Now for my point
. If I close off my window and open my hood front and rely on drawing all my fresh air from my house I have the same problems you do. When I close my hood front the fume control gets better. However, if I just crack open my window, I can actually feel the air drawing in and will sometimes even howl if it's not open enough. I then get no noticeable fumes at all in my room until I do something outside the hood. But I still don't get any fumes in my house.
I can only assume my system must be keeping control of most of my fumes in my little room because I have had several pieces of raw steel beside my hood for a month or so and I have no signs of any oxidation or on any of my tools.
I am working on a small scrubber system that I can incorporate into my hood and will eventuly build a bigger and better hood system once I'm happy with my scrubber results. In the mean time I keep things small and use lots of watch glasses.